You can measure the value that you place on a relationship by the level of discomfort you are willing to engage to make that relationship the best it can possibly be.

The absence of tension and conflict is not the mark of a healthy relationship any more than the absence of heavy breathing and muscle fatigue is the mark of an effective exercise program.
The most fulfilling and productive relationships in my life all have one thing in common:
I have initiated or endured very difficult conversations and adjustments along the way to make the relationship what it is.
And the relationship is what it is-not in spite of the hard things-but because of the hard things.

Jesus modeled this when he asked Peter-not once…not twice-three times:
“Do you love me?”
If Peter was going to be the starting pitcher on opening day (Pentecost), he had to be weighed and measured first.  Jesus valued Peter enough to speak acutely to his pain and disappointment.  Peter leaned into the discomfort.  As a result, he was able to lead the charge to change the world.  Well worth the pain, I bet.

Do you value the key relationships in your life enough to engage extreme discomfort to keep correct alignment?